PHOENIX RISES COUNSELING LLC SPECIALIZES IN HELPING professionals achieve measurable relief from emotional anguish
CREATE a life you love to live.
online therapy in Seattle, SPOKANE, and across Washington state; LOS ANGELES AND ALL OF CALIFORNIA COMING IN 2026
Does it feel like it's not getting better no matter what you do?
What if you have been treating the symptoms but not the cause?
* Has therapy made you feel better, but never brought about the profound changes you hoped for?
* Do you wonder if you are “too broken” or “unfixable” and therapy doesn’t work for you?
* Do you wonder if you might have to settle for going through life in semi-resignated acceptance that this is as good as it gets?
* Does your career require you to maintain a persona or a facade, and no one would guess how dark your thoughts can become sometimes? Do you feel exhausted, like a burned out actor in your own life?
* Do you struggle with thoughts or emotions that can get out of control, as if your emotional brain hijacked your body?
* Do you feel demoralized, hopeless, or numb?
* Do relationships tend to go sour?
* Do you feel like you can’t keep going like this anymore, but you don’t know what to do about it?
What if you’ve been chopping away at the leaves and branches of a weed, but the leaves keep growing back because you didn’t know you needed to pull the weed out by its root?
What if trauma is at the root of anxiety, depression, relationship problems, substance abuse, workaholism, busy-aholism, social anxiety, low self-esteem, and many other ailments?
Trauma is an event that diminishes your previous capacity.
Trauma can be hard to detect. Trauma can begin in the third trimester before birth and affect brain development in a fetus.
Trauma can be small, such as unintentional neglect in childhood because older siblings overwhelmed the parents.
Unrecognized and untreated trauma can leave you feeling distrustful of yourself, out of control, numb, untreatable, or “crazy”.
Find out if unrecognized and untreated trauma is at the root of your struggles. TAKE the Adverse Childhood Experiences Self-Assessment here.
Heal your Heart. Live with Ease. Thrive with confidence.
I help professionals understand how traumatic past events manifest as emotional problems in the present. Together, we rewrite old scripts and exit negative cycles through neurological change.
You can move from “making it through the day” to “flourishing emotionally” even if it seemed impossible before, too time-consuming, too painful, ineffective, and too disruptive.
This is where I can assist you best:
When you identify the root cause, targeted healing can begin.
* You can change “feeling not enough no matter what you do” to calm confidence, secure productivity, and a work-life balance that includes breaks and self-care.
* You can unlearn keeping up a facade and show up as unapologetically authentic YOU without losing everything you’ve worked for.
* You can turn a new chapter in intimate relationships; one that doesn’t have “mayhem” in the headline
* You can move from “getting by” to thriving, and learn to create a life you love to live
* You can move from social anxiety to socializing with ease, knowing you are worthwhile no matter what.
* You can relax the contracted state of “waiting for the other shoe to drop” into tranquil equanimity.
* You can teach your nervous system to tell the difference between a threat and safety so you can feel safe when you are safe.
* You can learn to tell which people are good for you and which ones aren’t, let go of hurtful relationships, and choose more suitable partners.
* You can quit people-pleasing and say no without worrying that others won’t like you or leave.
* You can shift from avoiding or sabotaging intimate relationships to feeling secure when you get and stay close.
* You can turn confusing neediness and volatile emotions in intimate relationships to calm loving intimacy.
* You can recover from unspeakable trauma and regain confident relaxation without losing your ability to protect yourself.
* You can tame uncontrollable emotions and be in charge of yourself, your thoughts and feelings, your behaviors, and your choices.
* You can go from being numb to fully feeling again without the fear of getting hurt.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Welcome to Phoenix Rises Counseling. I am Veronika Stutz, LMHC.
Please call me Vivi.
I believe it can be done.
CHANGE IS IN OUR NATURE. THE BODY IS DESIGNED TO ADAPT, GROW AND HEAL. THE BRAIN POSSESSES NEUROPLASTICITY - THE ABILITY TO GROW OR REORGANIZE NEURAL NETWORKS. WE ARE MADE TO CONTINUE ADAPTING TO OUR ENVIRONMENT; PHYSICALLY, STRUCTURALLY, NEUROLOGICALLY, AND PSYCHOLOGICALLY.
I am an EMDRIA-certified EMDR therapist. I specialize in trauma, and I conceptualize symptoms through a trauma-informed lens.
WE CAN ENGAGE THE INNATE ADAPTABILITY OF OUR BRAINS AND NERVOUS SYSTEMS FOR NATURAL HEALING.
I am an experienced guide with a powerful lantern. I know a way out of the dark tunnel because I've been there many times. I know that the scary shadows on the walls can't hurt you if we flash my lantern and pass by them, leaving the past where it belongs.
I'll take your hand, and I won't let go unless you want me to. We’ll walk together until you safely reach the light.
I specialize in:
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Anxiety & CHILDHOOD TRAUMA
You are no stranger to anxiety. Maybe you’ve felt anxious, nervous, tense, and hypervigilant for as long as you remember. No matter how far you’ve come, you can’t relax because it feels as if your hard-won successes will come crashing down any moment. People leave. Relationships end. Jobs are lost. The world never felt like a safe place to be.
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TRAUMA, PTSD, C-PTSD
You have a prior diagnosis of PTSD or c-PTSD and you want highly specialized, premium treatment. Or perhaps you have no diagnosis, but you have a sense that shadows of the past are haunting you. Emotions can go out of control as if your emotional brain hijacked your body. Your reactions startle you, and they seem to have a life of their own. You have little awareness of your body as if your being feels unsafe to be physically present.
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RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS & ATTACHMENT TRAUMA
Relationships have never been easy. They don’t tend to last or limp around painfully. You avoid becoming attached, and run at the slightest inkling that your partner may leave you. You hold on tightly when you want to let go. Partners hurt you but it’s hard to leave. You tolerated more than you wanted to. You’re fine by yourself, but become insecure and needy when partnered up.
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GRIEF & LOSS, TRAUMATIC GRIEF, PET GRIEF COUNSELING
Your grief doesn’t get any better, and you can’t imagine that it would. Your loss is so painful that it has changed your life. You wish you could have that one last conversation or a last goodbye. You worry that if you let go of your grief, you’ll lose the precious connection that meant the world to you. Reminders of your loved one bring heartbreak, and it is nearly impossible to cherish the happy memories without tears. Perhaps you experienced signs of your loved one, but you’re not sure if you’re losing it, and you can’t tell anyone.
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POLYAMORY COUPLES and individuals
You and your partner decided to open the relationship into polyamory or ethical non-monogamy, or maybe into playtime that includes kink. Both of you agree, but navigating the territory is much harder than you thought. Perhaps one partner wants to open the relationship, but the other is still on the fence. You can’t tell your parents or your friends, and you need to hide your love style from the neighbors. Every hidden fear is bubbling up, and communication is more crucial than ever before. You have difficulty finding a couples counselor who doesn’t pathologize your love style as a disorder.
COUNSELING FOR INDIVIDUALS OF PUBLIC PERSONA, ACADEMICS, CHILDREN OF PUBLIC PERSONAE OR ACADEMICS
Your career requires you to maintain a public persona. Perhaps you are an actor, musician, author, journalist, professional creative, celebrity, influencer, newscaster, or a person of public interest. You require reliable confidentiality in counseling. You need a space to drop your persona and safely be yourself. You seek a therapist who understands that your work is an unusual job but you are no deity. You seek a therapist with experience relating to your unique lifestyle, someone who doesn’t get carried away by fantasies about who you are. You need a therapist who is familiar with the fast-paced stress, pressure to be your best on your worst days, inhumane schedules, the sacrifice of being separated from your loved ones, relationship strain, personal isolation, or the emotional turmoil that makes you great at what you do.
You are an academic, you work in academia, or you are from a family of academics. You seek a therapist who “gets it” from lived experience so you don’t have to explain your unique challenges. You seek a therapist who understands the price of your hard-earned privilege, or the pressure and sacrifices that got you where you are today.
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Sexually abused men
Perhaps you have never told anyone what happened to you, in childhood or adulthood. You’re supposed to be strong. “Men don’t get molested or raped”. You suppress your memories, successfully or unsuccessfully, but the impact of what happened to you comes back to haunt you when you don’t feel as strong and in charge as you are “supposed to be” at all times. Perhaps you engage in substance abuse, compulsive use of sexual materials, or confusing symbolic enactments of what happened to you.
Nearly 50% of my clients are men who experienced sexual molestation, assault, and rape.
working together is simple.
THE PROCESS OF THERAPY
1) Preparation: ASSESSMENT, DIAGNOSIS, TREATMENT PLAN
Generally, we will meet 1-2x per week for 60-90 minutes at your appointed time.
For the first 2 sessions, we meet for 90 minutes to complete an assessment together, identify a diagnosis if you want one (unless you’re an insurance client, then we must add a diagnosis), identify your goals, and make a treatment plan.
2) The beginning stage: Playing puzzle
We get to know each other until we know and trust each other. Since we don’t want to waste any time, we’ll start by spilling all the puzzle pieces of your life on the table. We’ll look at each piece and see how they all fit together until we have a coherent picture.
We’ll start an EMDR case conceptualization and possibly do a brief demo of how EMDR works.
We may use Gestalt therapy/parts work/Ego States therapy. You’ll playfully give different personality parts, thoughts, feelings, or memories a voice until your entire inner committee feels heard and understood. It’s a bit like role-playing or theater, and it saves you from “talking about it”. You’ll just … spill it. I’ll show you and support you, and we make it fun. Of course, I’ll always be open to your feedback, and you don’t have to use interventions you don’t like.
We may learn cognitive-behavioral strategies and behavioral supports as necessary, such as learning Dialectical Behavior Therapy skills by workbook or groups, or creating action-plans to begin changing habits.
We’ll engage in EMDR resourcing, which means strengthening the part of you that is wise, capable, skilled, heroic, resilient, and so very lovable and worthy.
3) The intermediate stage: Detective work
We’ll start the detective work of seeking the needle in the haystack, which we do by riding feelings back in time to the earliest time you remember feeling this way. We may give parts a voice again to find out what “decisions” you made about life at a time when you were too young to know the final truth about life. We’ll identify limiting beliefs that may have kept you safe at the time but are no longer needed.
We’ll identify negative core beliefs about yourself that are associated to traumatic experiences.
From here, we’ll either continue parts work and engage in Healing of Memories or self-parenting, move into EMDR processing, or alternate and mix modalities depending on what works best for you.
4) The end stage: The Harvest
We continue EMDR processing until you report no symptoms, we see behaviors change positively, you reached your goals, we measure your progress on a scale from 0-10, and we determine that you have achieved significant change.
When we are certain that you are satisfied with the improvements, we switch to bi-weekly therapy sessions to taper off and see how you do on your own. After a month or so, we’ll officially end therapy and switch to voluntary wellness visits. This means that you can schedule irregular single sessions to check in.
POLYAMORY AND ETHICAL COUPLES AND INDIVIDUALS
Please check the process on the specialty page. Since there are many different scenarios in polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, monogamous couples counseling, kink, and various combinations, the process of intervention requires more flexibility. When in doubt, schedule a free consultation.
the FREE CONSULTATION
1) Click on the “Schedule Your Free Consultation” button. It will take you to my secure client platform Simple Practice, where you can schedule a meeting. You can also email me directly at vivi@phoenixrisescounseling.org, or use the contact form to ask for a meeting time that is not listed. I may be able to see you earlier if someone cancels.
2) I will either confirm your consultation through Simple Practice, or email you additional availabilities.
3) You will receive an email from Simple Practice, giving you access to the portal. For a consultation, please fill out the Informed Consent for a Telehealth Consultation form. (Simple Practice is so easy to navigate, even I can do it.) If you run into problems, email me.
4) A few hours before your appointment, Simple Practice will send you an email with a link to access the virtual consultation. Try the link ahead of time. Some cell phones require you to download an app. Desktops or laptops won’t.
5) We’ll meet! I will ask you what brings you into therapy and what your goals are. You can ask me anything and I will do my best to address your concerns. We will connect informally to get to know each other, but observe professional boundaries.
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What others are saying about my work:
Due to confidentiality, I can’t quote previous clients. I often hear that our shared work has ‘changed lives”, “exceeded expectations” and made clients feel “heard and understood like they haven’t been before”. Client feedback often moves me to tears and I feel privileged and grateful to be able to do this work.
I can, however, quote colleagues who recommend me:
“Veronika is a compassionate and caring EMDR practitioner. She is innately tuned into the needs of her clients. I recommend her to men and women who have experienced abusive childhoods and/or relationships and are yearning for big life changes.“
“Also, X shared how impactful you have been to her over the past year and it was so touching. It made my eyes fill up with tears thinking of how meaningful your work is in this world. You truly are a lovely, kind and compassionate soul.” Ellie Kane, LMHC
“Veronika is a highly skilled, warm, and caring therapist. She has extensive experience treating grief and CPTSD and is an expert in treating poly, kink, and ENM couples and individuals. She excels at helping her clients achieve their goals.“ Milena Gordillo, MSW, LICSW
Trauma is not who you are, it’s what happened to you.
Together, we’ll make sense of it in a way that leaves you stronger than before.
This therapy is for you if:
* You have been in therapy before and you’re looking for a quantum leap
* You have an understanding of your mental/emotional processes and you can verbalize them
* You can verbalize your goals
* You’re done being an externalizer, and you appreciate personal responsibility for thoughts and feelings
* You are ready for measurable change, and able to commit to a window of time to achieve it
* You can stay present in your body and maintain present awareness, or you’re willing to take the extra time to achieve this ability before we can engage in trauma work
* You appreciate humor. Humor is a therapeutic intervention, not a sign of lacking professionalism.
* You seek a real relationship with an authentic therapist while maintaining professional boundaries. No blank slate here, that’s so last century.
This therapy is not for you if:
* You experience active substance abuse that requires a level of care I can’t offer. If we find out this is the case, I will refer you.
* You experience a mood disorder that requires a level of care I can’t offer.
* You are actively suicidal and you may need around-the-clock support, which I can’t offer in a solo practice
* You are unable to make a regular time commitment of 6-12 months
But…
It’s a lot of money.
Yes, I get it. It’s a significant investment.
However, at a higher fee, I can see fewer clients. This enables me to dedicate more time, focus, thought, continuing education, peer consultation, mentoring, professional EMDR consultation, and energy to you. Higher fees mean I can provide premium service. You are not just a number in a factory-style healthcare mill, but a unique person I can get to know as intimately as you let me. I can commit to your care at a much higher level. We’ll get more done in less time.
It’s not a good time.
It’s never a good time for life changes. It’s definitely never a good time to look at what we prefer to avoid. If we as humans had it our way, we wouldn’t change at all because the timing’s never quite right to leave our comfort zone.
But the right time is never coming unless you make it so, and your lifetime passes by every day regardless.
It’s too disruptive.
It’s a valid concern if you’re steeped in responsibilities and demands. However, it doesn’t have to be disruptive. I’ve often read that most EMDR processing happens between sessions or even in your sleep because we activate a natural healing process in the brain. And that’s without homework.
Besides, I’ll make you a deal. If I don’t listen sensitively to your needs and adjust to your unique pacing, you get to fire me.
It’s too painful.
You may have been disappointed in the past by endlessly “talking about it” and feeling worse after therapy. Maybe you couldn’t function as well in your busy life, and you don’t want to take the risk again. But it can be different if we strengthen your positive parts/memories at the beginning of therapy and the end of every session so you don’t go back to life in emotional turmoil.
If I don’t listen and take your feedback into account, fire me. Healing is work, yes. You may be uncomfortable. But if you’re hurting more than before, we need to adjust the treatment approach so you can tolerate it. “No pain, no gain” is sooo 1980s.
You’re worth it.
Money can be replaced. Lifetime can’t.
YOUR LIFETIME AND LIFE QUALITY ARE YOUR MOST VALUABLE ASSETS.
FEE SCHEDULE
60-minute therapy/EMDR: $160
90-minute therapy/EMDR: $240
90-minute IADC therapy: $250
60-minute couples counseling: $180
90-minute couples counseling: $270
I offer out-of-network benefits and I will provide superbills for insurance reimbursement.
PLEASE NOTE:
Insurance doesn’t pay or reimburse for IADC.
investing in MENTAL HEALTH can change LIVES.
I currently still accept Aetna, Kaiser PPO, and First Choice Health. I am in the process of phasing out Aetna.
I offer Premera out-of-network benefits. Please feel free to inquire about details.
Contact me
Let’s get started.
I WILL answer your questions and we can decide if I’m the right therapist for you.
For the protection of your Personal Health Information, get in touch with me through my Hippa-compliant email:
vivi [at] phoenixrisescounseling [dot] org
You can also request an appointment directly in my Simple Practice schedule by using the red button ”Request Appointment”.
If you want a free consultation earlier or at a different time than the online schedule permits, email me directly.
A Good Faith Estimate is available upon request.
My license number in Washington state is LH 61526615.
INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/veronika.vivi.stutz/
FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61573968523843
LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/veronika-vivi-stutz-785a7b59/
YOUTUBE: https://youtube.com/@TheTraumaTherapyLiferaft
vivi [at] phoenixrisescounseling [dot] org
BUSINESS ADDRESS
Phoenix Rises Couseling LLC
Veronika Stutz, LMHC, C-EMDR
License number in Washington state: LH 61526615.
Howard St. STE W, #6727, Spokane, WA 99201